Good Enough

Reading about attachment theory the past couple of weeks has gotten me thinking about childhood attachment and how that develops over the life span. We’ve read about ideal childhood attachment and what could happen should those ideal conditions not be met. Mary Ainsworth talks about ambivalent attachment which essentially is characterized by neediness and intense insecurity in relationships. This type of attachment is thought to result from growing up with caregivers who are inconsistent in how and when they show love. This leaves the child unsure of when he will receive the love, if ever, that he so desperately needs. There’s a lot more to it than that, but that’s the basic premise. Reading and thinking about this type of upbringing catapulted me into the mind of a child going through this and I started to envision what he might be thinking as he endures the pain of uncertainty and the messages he might be receiving.

Words are powerful. They have the power to bring life, and the power to destroy it. Use them wisely.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue…” (Proverbs 18:21a, ESV).

GOOD ENOUGH
To know that I am loved
Is to know that I am good
Good enough to be loved
Good enough to be
Good enough.

I hear “I love you always”
But I see I love you sometimes
When conditions are placed
Where conditions were not promised

I was told it would never change
But I have seen how false that is
I have felt how false that is.

I have to be good
In order to be loved.

Because

To know that I am loved
Is to know that I am good
Good enough to be loved
Good enough to be
Good enough.